How to ask for (and deny) a second date

How to ask for (and deny) a second date

The romantic world can be a revolving door at times. The accessibility of dating apps has increased the pool of potential suitors without the in-person benefit of feeling “the vibes”. While it’s nice to have more options, we can’t control whether or not there is that organic click. Here are two easy phrases that can continue the magic or stop the party bus from going any further. 

First: How to ask for a second date. 

You have a great connection through text and amazingly enough a great connection in person. You want to express interest to your date and make sure that the excitement is mutual, but rejection is scary and hard. At the end of the date, read the room and look at their body language. Are they cuddly and close? Or do they seem like they are rushing? If you’re getting all positive reinforcement try saying something like, “I had a great time, you’re really easy to talk to and someone I’d like to know more! Want to hang out again next week?” It’s always nice to hear a compliment and this question allows the other person to understand your intentions while not coming off as pushy. 

Second: How to decline a second date. 

As the saying goes, “You have to kiss a couple frogs before you find your prince.” While not taken literally, dating is a game of chance. There’s 7 billion people in the world and you didn’t find the person you want to spend your short life on earth with. No big deal, happens to everyone. Sometimes, though, the other person isn’t feeling the same way and asks to continue seeing each other. This is always a tough spot to be in so approach the question with compassion. Simply saying, “I think you’re an awesome person! I just don’t feel a special connection but thank you for letting me get to know you” shows that you are firm in your decision but value the other person being vulnerable. If they persist, just say the same version of the above. It’s not up for discussion. 

Putting yourself out there and standing your ground makes you feel and appear confident. So ask away and if you get rejected move on. Your happiness is on the line, and it’s out there waiting for you. 

Indian Fusion Holiday Recipe Round-Up 

Indian Fusion Holiday Recipe Round-Up 

It’s no secret that holidays this year will be different than those prior. Many of us are looking for creative ways to bring the family together and add a touch of uniqueness to make this year special. You can achieve this by spicing it up in the kitchen…literally. Trying new cuisine and mixing in cultural elements can make any dinner an exciting memory. Impress your in-laws and picky eaters with our picks for incorporating Indian fusion this holiday season. 

Easiest Holiday Swap 

Try Naan bread instead of traditional rolls this year. Naan bread is moister and heartier than pita bread and more efficient with dipping in yummy sauces than conventional rolls. Naan also has plenty of carbs and energy that will help you last through the meal. It’s also full of micronutrients that you need throughout the day, which means you can balance out all the sweet treats’ sluggishness. 

Crowd-Pleasing Appetizer

Samosas are one of the most popular Indian foods and for a good reason. It has a flakey crust, spicy potatoes and is usually filled with other goodies like nuts and meat. This appetizer is also finger-food friendly and therefore can be quickly served at parties. The option we picked is filled with traditional spices and is pretty straightforward since sometimes it can be a little difficult for beginners to make. Even if your samosas don’t come out perfect, they’re always a crowd pleaser and will be gone by the time your parents leave. 

Best Fusion Entree

Chicken Vindaloo is a kitchen staple in most Indian households. Following the guidelines of being filled with spice and expertly paired with vegetables, this is a unique entree for a holiday meal. This works well, too, if you’re transporting the dish, as it’s meant to be marinated for an extended period of time and then heated up when it’s ready to be eaten. Pair with basmati rice, and you have a traditional dish that looks as good as it smells. 

Healthiest Side Dish 

Cucumber (Kachumber) salad is a healthy option for the holidays, usually when calories and carbs are overtaking the kitchen. This refreshing salad mixes the freshness of cucumber with the traditional Indian spices of cumin and chili powder. Your vegan and vegetarian guests will love this dish for its flavor diversity and diet-friendly ingredients. Quick tip: to make it more authentic, add more of these spices than you would traditionally use. The dish will taste more lively and fill up the kitchen with a familiar aroma.

Easiest Dessert 

Bring Kesar Peda, a traditional Indian dish, as your dessert. This recipe features saffron infused milk fudge that will please everyone at the table. This sweet treat’s yellow color makes any dessert platter brighter and adds a recognizable touch of India. Bonus: It’s ridiculously easy to make, so even if your cooking skills are a little rusty, you’ll be able to figure this out without destroying the kitchen (or crying in your apron). 

Surprise your family with any of these tasty delights inspired by Indian cuisine. The holidays are a time to create new memories and eat good food so fill the kitchen with aromatic spices and colorful dishes. Just be careful with these recipes as you may be requested to bring them to ALL future events- trust me.

5 Fixes To Do Before Selling Your Home 

5 Fixes To Do Before Selling Your Home 

Selling your home can be a stressful time, but we’re here to help! By following these easy steps, you can make sure of a seamless experience and cut the time your house stays on the market. Here are the top 5 “Must Do’s” to complete before saying goodbye to your former abode. 

1) Paint

Painting is a fix you can complete yourself that can increase your home’s value. While it is one of the most tedious tasks, fixing chips and painting over dark colors can let your buyer visualize the space with their items. According to HomeGain, painting your interior is a cost of $967 and leads to a $2,001 increase in value, while painting the exterior costs $1406 and leads to a $2,176 increase in value. Don’t know what colors to chose? Classic eggshell white is always a safe choice for bathrooms or kitchens, while a light gray is a popular choice for bedrooms. Do a little research before going to the home improvement store to make sure the colors match the flooring, and you’ll have a home that’s ready for move-in, which your buyers will appreciate. 

2) Create Curb Appeal 

While it might not be your biggest joy in life to have a manicured lawn, it certainly helps your buyers distinguish your home from others on the block. Hiring a landscaper or completing small fixes yourself can result in a big payoff. Things like getting a new mailbox, adding bushes, and upgrading mulch can make your property feel brand new. This is especially helpful because buyers look at the outside of your home first. Think of all the traffic driving by looking at the “For Sale” sign. You want to make sure that your house catches their eye right off the bat so that they’re inclined to schedule a walkthrough and get the ball rolling. 

3) Get a Home Inspection 

This is part of every buyer’s experience when purchasing a home, but it should be part of yours during the selling process. Getting a home inspection can make you aware of issues before you’re in the final stages of the selling process and can pay off in the long run. For example, a water heater can cost you $1,005 on average to replace beforehand, but if caught by the buyer can drop your selling price by as much as $5,000. 

4) Add Technology

Young buyers and new homeowners are looking for upgraded Technology in their homes. This could be anywhere from a smart thermostat like Nest brand or touch screen lighting. Seeing these upgrades can make an older home seem extra renovated and excite your buyers from the moment they walk in. It also saves them the trouble of upgrading it themselves, which is enticing for those who don’t want a fixer-upper. 

5) Clean!

The easiest step on this list is to make sure your home is nice and tidy. Even If you don’t want to do the dirty work yourself, hire a maid service to do a deep clean of your home. Usually, they have extra good deals for first-time clients that will help get the interior nice and neat for half the price. You’ll not only benefit from having a beautiful space, but the real character of your home will shine through. A double win if you ask me. 

Completing the items on this list can ensure that your home doesn’t drag on the market for too long, and most are easy to achieve. Getting ahead of the game and stepping in your buyers’ shoes leads to a larger return on investment, AKA more money for you to spend on your new space.